Comments on: Doing Me

By: Diva

Diva — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:23:59 +0000

I know. But for me, writing is about speaking truth as I know it. And sometimes that means folks get to see a piece of me.

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 11:09:17 +0000

My blog is all about censorship even though it is read by only a two people who know who I am. As far as I know anyway. But you already know I “keep” alot of myself hidden.

By: Diva

Diva — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 12:33:51 +0000

But that’s just it Mark, sometimes I’m censoring so much, it feels dishonest. Filters are necessary in our world, but if everything I write is heavily filtered, then I need to step away from the keyboard because I won’t be writing anything worth reading. Truth can set you free, help you see clearly, make you laugh, hurt like hell, or simply suck. I want to connect with folks with my writing. I can’t do that without hitting an emotional vein every now and then.

By: Mark Cowell

Mark Cowell — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 09:17:54 +0000

I thought by the title you were going to write on classic censorship, a la Lennie Bruce…but the more subtle censoring you talk about is everywhere. It is as subtle as what we choose to talk about with whoever we are talking. It is not just saying “fuck” but the context within which we say “fuck”. We are aware of who we are talking to…even if it is everybody…and tailor our content and style accordingly. I think we even do it with ourselves. What we chose to think about, or not think about. It’s a real skill! The trick is to find a balance between constantly farting in public and hiding in a closet with a cork in our butts. (And I just censored myself but writing “in our butts” instead of “up our asses.”)

By: Diva

Diva — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 22:31:31 +0000

Suzanne, Suzanne- I wouldn’t have you any other way. I’m first in line to read what your alter ego has to say. She cracks me the hell up!

By: Suzanne @ vAssistant Services

Suzanne @ vAssistant Services — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:20:03 +0000

Oh my darling girl – you are so NOT alone! The biggest reason I censor is my clients. Once out there, it’s OUT THERE – for good – no gettin’ it back and I have a few clients who would probably fall out of their chairs if I let fly with what I really think about any of the topics you list above. Plus, my blog is not about those things. But trust me, there have been way too many times when in the course of an explanation of something, I’ve typed one of my favorite phrases (…bitch, PLEASE!) only to hurriedly delete it before I accidentally published it.

Just when I realized I was worrying WAY TOO MUCH on that front, one of the ones I thought would fall out first emailed me telling me how much she enjoys reading someone else’s blog who IS her real, uncensored, politically-WAY-incorrect self AND cusses a blue streak, and my mind went into overdrive…still is, actually.

As you know, I recently bought the alter-ego version of my domain name where that me could run rampant and wild. Alas…it remains just a domain I own…

One day…though…one day…

By: Diva

Diva — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 15:38:45 +0000

Thanks Jennifer. That is the one thing I love about writing- there is usually someone else out there feeling the same as I do. I love connecting through my words. I agree with your husband. Keep doing your thing. Everything ain’t for everybody, but there will always be folks who get you. They’ll find you soon enough. I am definitely learning that.

By: Jennifer C.

Jennifer C. — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 13:04:03 +0000

:::APPLAUSE:::

I do the censoring thing as well. I do it a lot in my writing of stories. I don’t use curse words in fear of my mother being too embarrassed to tell anyone I’m her daughter. I’m 31 and she has never heard me use an expletive. My husband recently told me to stop doing that as far as my stories go. He was like they have to get use to it or get over it.

Do you and let everyone else do their self. Once again I applaud you. Thanking you saying what I’ve been thinking about myself.